The School of Life - 2019-07-03
Depression doesn't have to ruin our lives. The most urgent thing we need to do is understand the ways in which depression is unlike sadness - and why self-understanding is the primary route to a cure. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: https://bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: https://bit.ly/2LygRto Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: https://bit.ly/2XknJN4 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: https://bit.ly/2NtQKq0 “Almost half of us will suffer from depression at some point in our lives, but the condition remains badly misunderstood and therefore often poorly treated. At the heart of our collective difficulty with depression is a confusion about what it actually is – and in particular, how it can be distinguished from a state all of us know very well and with which it is has a distracting number of similarities, namely sadness. It’s because we unwittingly tend to apply to cases of depression a number of assumptions drawn from, and better suited to, an understanding of sadness that we end up suffering far more than we should…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: https://bit.ly/2XlldGq Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: https://www.youtube.com/timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: https://support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Nick Hilditch https://nickhilditch.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions https://www.valeproductions.co.uk/
We all know why we're here.
If you need a virtual hug i'm here for any of you.
Thanks
Hey thanks it really needed that ☹️🥺
I Might need that hug...
Thanks I haven't had a hug in over a year.
This made me cry, thank you
The worst thing about Depression is that you remember the days you didn't have it
I don't. I don't remember any memory and honestly that makes it harder.bc I dont know what is like to be a normal person.
Soo slow .. need contain to be straight forward as the title suggests
@James Francis what do you mean?
@Lê Hiền exactly
(trigger warning?) i can’t even remember how life was before depression. when i got depression i was around 10. first time i self-harmed around 11 years old. now i’m turning 21 and i’m still not cured even though i receive professional help and i’m on antidepressant. I don’t self harm anymore tho, and i’ve been clean since i was around 15 years old. now i’m covering up my scars with tattoos. i want to live but i really can’t live like this anymore. i feel so unappreciated😢 i love my mom and my dog and they’re my reason for trying tbh. i hope you guys have a reason to try too, please hold on and stay strong
Daily I fight the desire to end my life.
Yeah me too
@Zoomer Groomer Hello :), May I ask why you would want to?
same
Same
I love you darth! ❤️
The hardest thing about depression is that it is addictive. It begins to feel uncomfortable not to be depressed. You feel guilty for feeling happy.
@Jackale Summerlight thanks a lot for your kind words. I’m still alive and won’t commit suicide. In fact it’s my birthday today, will try to stay positive and enjoy life more
I understand you. It's not that it is addictive. It's uncomfortable not to be depressed either because it seems like you're running away further from the truth, or because it seems like it protects you from further pain, which, of course it doesn't. Depression, like this video says, is a sign that something is wrong. It's something that we need to feel in order to remind us of something of vital importance, and not feeling depressed can sometimes seem like we're forgetting that, which we shouldn't. If we find out what is wrong, and learn how to face it, we don't have to run anymore.
@Summer Finn belated happy Birthday 🥳
@I M FABIA ohh thank you 😊
This is so true. I thought I was the only one and it feels like I am going insane.
The people who look this up are trying to cope with depression and want to live.
Please call the national suicide prevention hotline if you have sucidal thougts
Idk about the live part tho
@Alan Hernandez same...
No shit
I looked it up because I still have some part of me that wants to love life and not die and there's some part of me that wants to just let go and kill myself. It feels like a conflict between self-preservation and self-destruction and I am trying and I hope everyone here is too.
We deserve to live not just because of who we are as a person but more inherently are as a being. Like Alan Watts says, "We come out of the universe." I hope everyone here is able to love life- gradually through self-discovery and self love♥
I’m 18, lost and depressed. I’m considering moving to a peaceful place like Switzerland or New Zealand. I imagine myself living in a farmhouse and spending the rest of my life just reading books and dreaming. I’m so tired of this world. So tired of everything. I don’t even have a reason to be tired. I live a comfortable life and yet everything’s missing. I don’t know anymore
@Samuel Piper do not encourage suicide. If you have suicidal thoughts please call the national suicide prevention hotline they can help an get you help
Please call the national suicide prevention hotline if you have dark thoughts
@Sleepy
Meds will make it worse. Dont take them anymore.
"You can run and run but from yourself you can not hide".
I have lost all my friends and have little contact with my family.
This now leaves me with no one to talk to and turn to. Don't isolate Yourself !
I just turned 18, tho I feel comfortably, I still feel tired. I'm always scolded and abused by my parents. I don't even feel like studying and doing anything good for me anymore. I just feel hopeless. If I wasn't a muslim, I'd have commit suicide rn
Depression is so awful, I don’t wish it on my worst enemy.
I want my worst enemy to be a friend.
@Nightshade don't say nun bruh did u not read the crazy part?
@Philip Prange What, homeboy?
@Nightshade idk if "She" exists...
@Abir Hasan calm down fam
This is my social life in a nutshell: all alone.
I hope you eventually manage to conquer it 🙏 🤞 ♥ 🏴
@chimenerf same. I'm exhausted
@Jie Zhu can i help in any way i really do that
@chimenerf thanks that's very nice of you (๑´∀`๑)
@chimenerf jie_zhuu is my instagram ฅ۶•ﻌ•♡
I am recovered from 15 years of depression. I am here to tell you all that recovery is very possible and not to lose hope. Your depression won't allow you to see it, but you are an amazing person and you do deserve a happy long life.
lol
Let me budge in....I used to be in a very high-strung, adrenaline soaked career...But after a while I quit and became a civil servant...in these places I found people who were contented with just earning and not performing...my constant jibes etc ended up with me being pushed into a lonely depressed corner but honestly; this is not the source of my dark moods, I have been a foreboding loner and general grinch of a perfectionist(deep probing clearly points to issues from yore)...For years now I found swimming to be my escape...not in a pool though! I swim in a Lake that has crocs and hippos (If you use a bit of common sense and just 'depressive luck' nothing major happens) I have had to stop not because I fear but because weeks ago two kids were mauled and killed by some rogue hippo...this didn't bother me at all and I kept swimming but then the disapproval from the community plus rumours that I am suicidal made me stop: (this can actually lead to me losing my job; my only refuge now, in a place where people don't ever confront risk whatsoever!!) So here I am stewing...scouting for lonely beaches to swim; which actually is risky because these predators love uninhabited locales. Anyhoo...I just felt like sharing!
@MrBabujinga Blimey. Your life sounds really adventurous. I kind of envy it, though I don't think I could go as far as swimming with dangerous animals 😂 I plan to climb a mountain in May (dependant on lockdown measures) which is mostly trails and that's as adventurous as I'm gunna get.
Tbh it is the heart thumping moments that have helped me out of depression; I do a lot of running. I think some of us (not all) are depressed because we're destined to do so much more, but haven't/can't/don't do it.
I hope you're able to find a way to expend that energy.
@No Thanks123 Big thanks, really appreciated. Am in Africa...like really in the rural...It can be fun! I have always felt very exhilarated /versus the lows... after these derring-dos..the encounter with the wild animals is usually so random/rare...but it happens...really trying to understand the rhyme and reason....
Pills didn't work when i stop using them. Are you sure it's the way?
Being too depressed to even watch the whole video...
I couldn’t get through it, it was too real. I came to the comments so I wouldn’t give the video my full attention 🙂
You didn't miss out on much i didn't find it helpful but that's just me though.
i cried lol
Okay do you basicly told me how I'm feeling but I came to this video to learn how to cope with this deppresion how to live with this. The title of this video i misleading :/
ikr, this video made me more depressed
try this - it worked for me - you got nothing to lose https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qnqtl8358mI
@elisa24 There is a solution to every problem if there is a desire and determination. . For a relaxed life without anxiety sit on a chair, back and spine erect, hands on your lap with palms upwards, close your eyes and do nothing. Be still without moving and observe your breathing and body sensations for around 10-15 minutes. What is important is to be as still as possible. Plenty of thoughts will come but slowly negative thoughts will reduce or vanish slowly. The mind is reprogrammed. Do twice daily or as per your convenience. This could be life-transforming if you desire change. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Ik I’m late but this video helped me a lot: https://youtu.be/cTUzabdqDTw
It was a stupid video lol
“The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.”
― F. Scott Fitzgerald
That’s a whole lifestyle for me ngl
Kudos for the video content! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you thought about - Peyadison Initial Principality (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is a good exclusive guide for discovering how to get rid of depression without the headache. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my m8 at very last got astronomical results with it.
Appreciate Video! Apologies for the intrusion, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you tried - Peyadison Initial Principality (search on google)? It is a smashing one of a kind guide for discovering how to get rid of depression minus the normal expense. Ive heard some great things about it and my work buddy at last got great success with it.
And can't do f**k all bout it either 😢
Ugh its tiring going through it. I just want the pain to stop
I’m sad and can’t find anything to make myself happy again, I want to end my life but can’t find the courage for it...
Had a knife at my neck 6 times but wouldn't "pull the trigger"
@Subu Nation please ask for help, don't give up of yourself❤
@Subu Nation life is worth so much more than just ending so quick! Please reach out for help!❤️ you’re worthy!!
silently sits next too i know what that feels like.
"I know what its like to lose. To feel so desperately that you're right, yet to fail all the same"
2020 took everything away from me. I lost everything. I feel like ending my life everyday. If only I can turn back time...😢😢
@Shyaaam Meneen yup, still wanna die.
@kzumv Even billionaires have problems. Reach a state of mind where nothing disturbs you. For a relaxed life without anxiety sit on a chair, back and spine as erect as possible, hands on your lap with palms upwards, close your eyes and do nothing. Be still without moving and observe your incoming--outgoing breath and body sensations for around 10-20 minutes. Be as still as possible. Your breath is directly related to the mind causing anxiety. Plenty of thoughts will come but slowly negative thoughts will reduce. The mind is slowly reprogrammed to relax when nothing disturbs you. Do twice daily or as per your convenience. Practice not over-reacting to any daily real life situations. Enjoy the above meditation daily without expectations and doubts and your life will transform. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@kzumv Self pity is a disease. Wake up and s tart meditating to enjoy life. Do not compare your life with others. Best wishes.
@Sophie Ghaffari Self pity is not good. Reach a state of mind where nothing disturbs you. Your breath is directly related to your mind causing anxiety. For a relaxed life without anxiety sit on a chair, back and spine as erect as possible, hands on your lap with palms upwards, close your eyes and do nothing. Be still without moving and observe your incoming--outgoing breath and body sensations for around 10-20 minutes. Be as still as possible. Plenty of thoughts will come but slowly negative thoughts will reduce. The mind is slowly reprogrammed to relax when nothing disturbs you. Do twice daily or as per your convenience. Practice not over-reacting to any daily real life situations. Enjoy the above meditation daily without expectations and doubts and your life will transform. Must be done daily. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@Shyaaam Meneen thanks! ❤️❤️❤️
Damn I wanna be happy again.
Last these years have been the worst years of my life.
I'm 29 and I'm completely alone in my life.
I definitely suffer from
manic depression.
Some days I'm smiling and laughing and talking nonsense.
But it's a careless laugh and smile. Where I'll even talk about suicide and jumping in front of traffic and not giving a fuck..
I want my life back I dont wanna grow old and waste my life away not like this.
Same...I'm 27 and sometimes i feel like time is passing by while i haven't lived my life to the fullest, never have been truly happy and peaceful.
That's bipolar disorder and you should get treatment for it ..I was suffering from Depression for 5 years but Im finally feeling better with therapy
I get you. But don't give up my friend. You are strong💪
"the people who seems like the happiest person are the ones that hide the biggest pain"
Question- what is depression, anxiety, panic attacks ?
Answer- when we thinking so much about 1 topic continuously and specially so much negativity about 1 topic our brain it started to worry and our serta(it's like a gland which helps us to fight with fear) started to decrease and because of it we cannot stop the Negative inside our mind because of it our brain it started to take carbon dioxide instead of oxygen and send it to whole body to heart so that's why it's very common to not breath in depression, panic attacks because our body it started to be confused and sending carbon dioxide to heart and also it sends false commands to our brain that our hand is paining,leg pain or many different pain even we didn't do any hard work. in some peoples serta stop producing that's why we started to fear to do anything our confidence it started to be low. And we afraid to go outside from home. some people worried what if they driving car alone and suddenly they got panic attacks what if no one helped them or they died in car because of suffocation and some people they afraid from hight,water,fire etc no worries if you are facing this problem then talk to me for free no fee nothing
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Q.WHY WE THINK SO MUCH NEGATIVE NOW A DAY?
ANS.WE ARE THE SOUL WE KNOW IT VERY WELL. JUST LIKE THAT OUR GOD FATHER HE'S ALSO SOUL.LIKE THERE'S ONE MOON IN SKY AND TRILLIONS OF STARS.ITS THE BEST EX. OF US.ONE MOON INDICATE THE SUPREME SOUL. AND TRILLIONS OF STARS INDICATE US.BUT THEN WHY WE ARE SO NEGATIVE NOW A DAYS?WELL ITS BCZ WE ARE NOT CONNECTED WITH HIM ANYMORE.YES LIKE WITHOUT ELECTRICITY OUR HOUSE IS NOTHING.FOR ELECTRICITY WE NEED TO CONNECT WITH POWER HOUSE JUST LIKE THAT WE STARTED TO JEALOUS,ANGRY,DEPRESSED,PANIC etc VERY EASILY BCZ WE ARE NOT CONNECTED WITH GOD(POWER HOUSE) AND OUR BATTERY ITS GETTING LOW DAY BY DAY BUT WE DONT KNOW HOW TO CHARGE IT.BUT NO WORRIES ITS SO EASY WE JUST NEED TO LEARN HOW TO CONNECT WITH GOD.BUT BEFORE IT LETS KNOW A BIT MORE ABOUT GOD
JESUS SAID-GOD IS ONE AND GOD IS LIGHT
MOHMAD SAID-NOOR-E-ILLAHI(MEANS LIGHT)
INDIA- THEY CALL SHIV THE GOD(THE LIGHT,JYOTILING)
BUDHA-THEY DOING MEDITATION IN FRONT OF LIGHT
IN EVERY RELIGION GOD IS LIGHT. AND HIS NAME IS (SHIV).
WE NEED TO LEARN HOW TO CONNECT WITH HIM BCZ.HE'S OCEAN OF LOVE,BLISS,KNOWLEDGE,PEACE,HAPPINESS,PURITY,POWER
WE USUALLY HELPING IN DEPRESSION AND TEACHING HOW TO MEDITATE AND CONNECT WITH GOD EASILY FOR FREE.
ik some people thought that why I'm doing this for free well it's bcz happiness is very precious.we cannot afford it through money.
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I'm going through my second depression, I'm staying strong, even though my brain's thoughts are telling me bad things, I lift myself up.
You will get through it! Keep your head up 🙂
I hope you're still doing well
try this - it worked for me - you got nothing to lose https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qnqtl8358mI
Exactly the same here, never forget that you‘re not alone fighting this shit.
You can pray Jesus and ask Him help.
"Depression is sadness that has forgotten it's true causes"
I haven't forgotten the causes, just stopped caring enough to get the cure
because the only persons I have left that I trust are the ones in my head, and I am proud that I can see even that
I became depressed for 6 years becuse no one I love has ever felt the same way about me
Hang in there.
https://youtu.be/Xr-r855IXoY
Plz listen this once https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=U22bA-lsCX0
I know it man. Girls wont even give me a chance tbh. Maybe it cause i dont have alot going for me.
The sad thing is we all clicked on this video for the same reason
Read this if you have ever felt alone, depressed, suicidal, lost, scared, worthless, abandoned, or anything of that nature, this is for you
You Are Beautiful.
You Are Wanted.
You Are Wonderful.
Don't quit on yourself. Don't hurt yourself. You are worth the world and nobody wants to see you suffering. This is not the end. The way you feel right now will pass. Peoples minds will change. Things WILL get better.
We love you and are always here for you. Do NOT do something permanent over something temporary.
You're better than that.
All stars need to see darkness before the light.
And always remember, Don't change so people will like you. Be yourself & the right people will find and love the real you.
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Mindset
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Now read the first letter of every word
You Matter! no matter what other people may say. Always know this is true. It helps. You are worth my time to write this. I do care. <3 Continue on <3 be a soldier. Fight that war. Because YOU can. I believe in you. I'm rooting for you! Good luck!
Please pass this on to other videos! ❤️❤️❤️
its sad but this will probably be quickly ignored by any deoresses person
i couldnt read all of it but it made me vvvvv happy i started cryin. thank u
This made me cry. Thank you❤️
Nothing can be changed
This scared me. Thought you were talking about me for a minute.
nah that's wrong. you can know why you are depressed. It's actually what you are talking about in therapy. it's not that simple.
i’ve never cried this hard in my life. i don’t know how much longer i can go on like this. i’m really trying i just don’t want to deal w this anymore
I just want to be happy like I was when I was younger.
As we get older, we find out that life is not what we thought it was. Just full of evil and hate.
The thing about us boys is the fact we have no one to talk to, society expects us to "be a man" when we have feelings too, if u told anyone ur feelings they would laugh it off which hurts us more, over 70% of suicides are male, this is why
Don't be misled, women are just as likely to commit suicide as well. It's just men are more successful.
I’ve come to the conclusion that there’s no cure for depression - I just have to wait and hope it only last few days or week. I don’t remember the last time I’ve gone a week without depression. I’m not suicidal but i hope a nuclear bomb lands on my head
Everyone is Perfect in their own way, depression hits almost everyone in this century, Listen what Dr Joe have to say overcoming emotions.Peace and Love to you.
https://youtu.be/achlGGEfGoQ
I feel that too! One day at a time bud
From what I am hearing it sounds like they have been going through some old data. They didn't even discuss the symptoms of depression and they didn't even mention anything about serotonin levels. And manic depression isn't even called manic depression anymore. Manic depression is bipolar depression. Didn't mean to make that a rant haha 😅
I agree, and making it sound like someone “chooses to be depressed” instead of dealing with an unhappy marriage or childhood. Really not a great video for people who are suffering through depression. Btw, no one here is defined by their mental illness as the term “depressives” may suggest
Yes, I'm watching this. Just spent all day long looking at my phone. Trying to find joy. I just can't keep things going like this. I miss my old self where I'm always happy. My parents don't understand me, my siblings don't understand me, my friends don't understand me, no one. Luckily I still have faith to not have suicidal thoughts.
"one becomes self-hating as a defense against the risks of hating someone else"
alysha w same😔I really wanna change that toxic way of thinking but it’s hard...
You said it. This is so me. There’s no one I hate more than myself
Hmmmmm
So true :(
@Tee Noush my dad is the same.!
"If you are going through hell, keep going"
please, shut the fuck up...
shut the fuck up
It's too long, i dont even have motivation to listen and finish the video.
I really feel bad at myself after a long time. It’s not my fault these things happened to me.
I see so depression is from compounding sadness that never got treated...interesting
Another aspect is an extreme feeling of guilt. I have been very blessed/fortunate in my life and when l count my blessings at night l cry because l have so much to be thankful for and yet l can’t be happy. You can’t help having depression though. You need to be thankful for your blessings, not guilty. It took me a long time to learn that.
All I want is to feel happy again, to feel emotions again, to be loved again, I never thought I would have true depression until last year when I lost practically everything, I lost my mom, my dog, my brother, my friends, my gf now ex, im 15 and all I have left is my dad and he shares the same fate of depression as me due to the loss of my mom/his wife, I dont even know what the feeling of happiness is all I know is anger and sadness, I'm not motivated anymore, I'm not energetic anymore I'm just ehhh, all I want is the pain to stop and to be happy again with an amazing girl and I thought i found her but she then fell out of love with me thanks to my depression, I'm just so tired now, just wanna be happy again, can anyone give me advice or something to help me it would be much appreciated 😔
The most thing that helped me get through my depression is drawing
Drawing just fills my life with colours and joy.
I have always loved video games(specifically competitive ones like LoL, rocket league, not shooters) but my god the toxicity there is unbearable for a depressed man and sometimes i end up flaming like im the fcking devil. I have lost my passion for gaming, partly because of the toxicity. Now its nothing but a distraction.
Creative coping mechanisms are great! :) I cope by writing.
I can’t imagine myself being happy again.
I feel like the days are on repeat and the same thing just happens over and over agian
I know what you mean. It's because of our habits. We stick to our bad habits and just repeat them over and over again. But if we just start little and make a little change in one of them, we're gonna feel better💪😊. Read the book "the compound effect" by "darren hardy". It will help you❤
"Depression is sadness that has forgotten it's true causes"
I fell you forgot to mention that being depressed can also mean you feel numb and there is nothing you enjoy anymore, compared to being sad. Because you can feel empty but not "sad" per se
I'm scared I'm gonna come to a point where I kill myself although at the moment, I am pretty sure I am too scared to do THAT
Just remember: there is still hope for us. 🍓
Idk if I'm depressed but I just feel like it's hard for me to live going through this. My family and friends notice something is rong with me but I just push them away. They're trying to help me but they don't understand what I'm going through bc in the past few days I've been avoiding them and try to make sure they don't know what I'm going through. I don't like saying this but sometimes I feel like I just wanna die bc I can't deal with this feeling anymore. I'm 14 and am moving schools next year and I'm pretty sure that is a big reason for me starting to suffer from anxiety.. I'm in a really weird mood now and dont know why I'm writing this comment lol. I geus I just needed to share the way I feel with someone or something.. if you red this till now, well then thanks for listening and I hope you will never get to feel the way I feel now or go what I'm going through..
Bye
I hope you be ok❤
I've been dealing with depression for almost 3 years now, still waiting for it to get better. Nothing brings me joy anymore, I feel as if everything is so grey and meaningless. I know the reason for my sadness, its not just being sad for no reason, even though it feels like it most of the time.
I'm trying to cope for my kids
Half of us? Imagine never having depression. Jesus Christ.
lazlo686 when did i ever say that? what the fuck is wrong with you? literally almost everyone that replied to me read my comment wrong are you all fucking stupid BYE
lolipop12aj honestly everyone that hated my comment immediately assumed i was self diagnosing depression.. i feel like they all forgot how to read when it came to my comment 😭😭😭✋
Imagine being happy
can't relate
I hate such people
I had my first experience last year. No it’s come back. You’re not alone
The worst thing is I literally can’t remember how it is to be happy I can’t even imagine it that’s so crazy and weird ...
Same
Sometimes when I'm depressed I want to take a vacation far away from the the drama
"In sooth I know not why I am sad, it wearies me, you say it wearies you."
dio manggo - 2020-05-22
I want my old self back,
Where im happy
Where im enjoying life.
Ekin Demirkaya - 2021-01-27
Me too
Lynn Torres - 2021-01-27
@artane5mg
Hope you’re feeling better. The past year has been a bitch. Things will get better
ThiccDaddy69 - 2021-01-30
I feel u brother/sister
ROYAL RED BIRD - 2021-02-11
Same bro. BTW I'm 14
Doggy Milk - 2021-02-12
When your depression ends, trust me you’ll have a great time, I’m here for you